Thing Finding Thursday with Jasmine Lamb of All is Listening

I missed you last week, Dear Reader. iMovie and I were having a lovers’ quarrel and it was trying to keep us apart. We’re on speaking terms again and I am thrilled to share with you the interview I did with Jasmine Lamb.

As a coach, one of my skills is the capacity to listen to my clients at different levels.  I listen for what they say, and to what they DON’T say. I listen to the pauses in speech, to the speed of the words and from whence said words come (diaphragm, throat, nose…it all indicates something different). So, yeah. I’m pretty skillish. And yet, YET, this woman has brought me to my knees. She is a LISTENER. A masterful listener who energetically reminded me to sloooowwww waayyyy, WAAAAYYY down.

Jasmine works one-on-one with people through her Healing Heart Sessions. She writes the blog All is Listening: Tools and Tales for Breaking Up, Waking Up, and Falling in Love. She is author of the forthcoming digital book, A Call to Listen: How to Start an Inner Revolution.

She has plenty of thoughts for you Thing-seekers and non-seekers. {Hint: it has everything to do with listening.} 

So please, get your cup of tea, settle into your comfiest chair,  and give this a good listen. Then turn everything off and take the time and make the space to listen to your own self.

Interview with Jasmine Lamb for Thing Finding Thursday

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Ooooh yes. Stop and listen. What is your life, right now, trying to tell you?

(let’s talk about this - really chew it over – on Facebook)

You can find Jasmine at her blog, All is Listening and on Twitter.

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Edited Transcript of Interview with Jasmine Lamb For Thing Finding Thursday

Jasmine: My thing is listening.  And when I say listening what I am talking about is listening first to my experience in this moment and to what is arising for me right here.  And extending out from there is listening to the environment, to the actual sounds, and then also having from this place of presence, listening to others.

Tanya: I suspect it’s always been with you but it hasn’t been articulated as such.

Jasmine:  That’s right.  It always has been with me and I’ve always almost known it, but haven’t quite and I’ve been confused about it.  Because what was reflected back to me when I was younger, both as a child and a teenager and then in my career in my twenties, was my skill in relating to people and in listening to people and my skill in taking care of people.  And I have really powerful skills in this area and I got enormous amounts of positive feedback from it.  And at that stage in my life I was confused into thinking that the thing that I got lots of positive feedback about and the place where I got all the compliments and the place where people gave me attention, that that was my thing;

Jasmine: I was a fixer and a problem solver and a hand holder and a “let’s navigate this divorce successfully” person.

And that’s all a part of me.  It still is; I have those skills.  I want to use those skills.  But, it wasn’t entirely feeding my soul.

Tanya:  So there was a point at which you went from this listener in this capacity to another kind of listener.  The listener that is very informed by your center – so what was that shift?

Jasmine:  It was a culmination of catastrophes.  I woke up one day five years ago, ready to go to work. I felt a pain in my side and it brought me to the ground.  And as I descended, my back seized up.  And I just couldn’t move.

And what first was my back being seized up transitioned to something where the bottom fell out of all my senses.  I couldn’t tolerate sound; I couldn’t tolerate fast movement or even slow movement.

Jasmine: What I could be with was the very quietest, most still part of the center of me.  That was where I could be.  And I had touched that place in my life, but I had never really rested there. It gave me this incredible opportunity to rest within myself and to listen there.  And really to listen in the moment there . When we are really listening, we are open to what we don’t know.

Tanya: I’m sensitive to that person who’s listening and saying, “Okay, but I haven’t known what my thing is for my whole life and now I’m open to being open to it and I want to find my damned thing.”  I feel that there’s that sense of urgency, so I think that you have a lot to offer in this realm of confusion and bless you and I hope that comes across with the respect that I mean for it to.  But I know that you have a belief that confusion, that feeling lost is actually a really powerful place so will you say more about that?

Jasmine: When we are lost it doesn’t feel powerful; it feels often miserable.  Particularly when we are trying to get out of feeling lost.  When I have been able to accept my lost-ness, and often it comes because I just am so fed up and so exhausted and so at my wit’s end that I just say, “Okay, I am lost.  I don’t know what I need.  I don’t know what is next and I don’t know what my thing is.”  And then, I can feel it right now, I just took this big breath.  My body, my being, sighs a sigh of relief that is like, “Great.  You are accepting where you actually are.”

And from that place, knowing really does come.

So if I was working with a client around this, you would actually slow way down and I would give them this opportunity to feel the sensations of felt sense.  Their physical sensations that are coming up in this wanting and desire and lost-ness.  And let those unfold and let those unwind.

Tanya: I love this – on your site.  Breaking up, waking up, falling in love and I was wondering if you could play with me and knit that into the context of finding your thing or stitch it in for me.

Jasmine:  But for those people who are seeking their thing, they’re on a journey and what I think is exciting is that your life is going to take you there if you will listen to it.  And if you’re willing to go for the ride, which might mean some breaking up happening and it doesn’t happen consecutively; it all gets mixed up.  You’re going to wake up to what is true for you and it might not be what you expected and it might be scary.

Tanya: What is it that you want for people who are watching this right now who may be looking for their thing or trying to claim their thing or in process or maybe they think they found it but they’re feeling, “Is this it?” What do you want for them?

Jasmine:  I want them to open to the possibility that their thing is inside of them.  And that they can move towards it by trusting themselves and slowing down to include more parts of themselves in the conversation.

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Thing Finding Thursday with Pam Slim of Escape from Cubicle Nation

Pam Slim. I adore Pam Slim – author of breakout book, Escape from Cubicle Nation (her blog with the same name is “one of the top career and marketing blogs on the web“); writer; coach; and former corporate manager who helps frustrated employees in corporate jobs break out and start their own business - and after this interview, I can’t imagine anyone who wouldn’t.

It’s soooooo good. It’s about finding the themes in your life, your body of work – which may encompass several ‘things’ – and about how to STOP DRIVING YOURSELF CRAZY trying to identify your one thing…

…and instead use your interests and ‘list of personal ingredients’ to start making a difference in the world.

Go ahead, make an impact. Pam Slim is about to tell you how.

And how she put it was so incredible that although the video is just a snippet from our interview, I’ve attached the PDF. It’s epic in scope…and in length. (13 pages!). You might need it for reference – seriously! – so here it is (Pamela_Slim_on_Finding Your Thing).

Interview with Pam Slim for Thing Finding Thursday

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Genius. Let’s start with where Pam Slim left us: what impact do YOU want to make on the world? And what list of ingredients can you contribute to this delicious world-changing stew?

(let’s talk about this - really chew it over – on Facebook)

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You can find Pam Slim at her blog, Escape from Cubicle Nation and on Twitter.

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Edited Transcript of Interview with Pam Slim For Thing Finding Thursday

Tanya Geisler: So, you know what we’re here to talk about. We’re here to talk about people finding their thing. So you want to tell us a little about your thing?

Pam Slim: I do. I have actually a lot of things to say about my thing because what I do is work with people generally who are wanting to start a business, so to make part of their thing the way in which they make money be in some way related to starting a business as opposed to a career.

And that path has come from a long time of working on the human side of business, first inside companies working within training and development and helping people to grow and develop within companies and then as an outside consultant where I worked in a whole bunch of companies to work with people to try to improve them from the inside. And then in the last six years I’ve escaped cubicle nation of working with corporate employees that want to leave and start a business.

So what’s interesting is although I have many, many conversations with people about what their thing is, I actually fundamentally don’t believe there is one thing for most people, which we can definitely get into.

I think that can be something that slips a lot of people up because they think the sky is going to open up and the answer is going to come and they’re going to know their thing and they’re going to tiptoe down through the pile of tulips for the rest of their life.

And it actually in my experience rarely happens like that.

Tanya: So how does it usually happen?

Pam: The broader context and the way I’m thinking about it lately is it’s related to your body of work.

So, your body of work is a way of thinking about everything that you do in the world, how you interact with people, the kinds of things you might physically produce, anything from needlepoint to a book to a whole generation of really fantastic entrepreneurs. (You know, if you’re somebody like a coach.)

And so your body of work doesn’t necessarily have to be around one particular thing.

If you think about your life’s work as including this huge body of work that can have some disparate pieces to it, it might reduce some anxiety for thinking that there has to just be this one thing.

SO what if you don’t yet have a huge body of work to analyze?

Pam: just start to list ingredients. I call it listing your own personal ingredients. So you can say, “You know what? I have a little bit of coach in me and I really love music and I think music is a very powerful thing. And I’m totally fascinated by Apple products. And I really love Thailand.” Just begin to list all of the different ingredients that can just have you become aware of yourself and what your interests are.

And also include things like you talked about,

  • What are your personal values?
  • What are lines that you know you will never cross when it comes to ethics or personal values?
  • What are your strengths?
  • What are strengths that you have that you’ve noticed all the way through school?
  • Are you really analytical or are you great at presentations…?

So when you have your list of ingredients, what I tell my clients is just become ingredients in search of a recipe.

Once again, you can eat many different plates throughout the course of your life, so at a certain stage the recipe is found in problems in the world that are meant to be solved.

So to use a personal example, that’s part of what I saw when I did my own assessment of ingredients. I love to work with people, I love to coach, I’m fascinated by the start-up experience, I love business, I love marketing and growing businesses, there are a huge amount of people who are very highly qualified and competent who are coaching people how to do that. There are a ton of books written about it. But the gap that I’ve found is there were few people who were addressing the specific issue for corporate employees who wanted to leave their jobs and start a business and all of the issues that were associated with that.

So they would read all the books that just talked about, “Here are the ten steps to open for business.” These books would leave out things like how do you go through a massive identity shift? How do you tell your parents that you’re going to leave your job that they had worked so hard and spent all their money to send you through college to be a doctor or to be a lawyer and here you want to go open a cookie business or something, you know? How do you have those conversations, how do you deal with fear?

That, for me, was an example of taking my ingredients and finding a particular place in the market that had a need for the specific kind of thing that I wanted to develop. And so that has been my thing for the last six years.

Tanya: that piece where you recognize the opportunity or the transition, were those from personal experiences that you had where you were moving from this realm to that realm and sort of felt some of those pains yourself?

Pam: But for whatever reason, in my own life it’s always been pretty clear. And the way it generally appears is I’ll find the vein of what it is I want to be doing, and I might be in it and kind of put out that though like, “What is that next thing? What’s the next thing I want to do?” And things generally open up.

Now, that said, and the reason I say that is exactly for the reason that you and I have talked about before. It’s so annoying, it’s like somebody who if you struggle with that issue and it isn’t easy and it doesn’t come and there’s somebody like me. Like, “Just set the intention to the universe, man. It’ll come.” That is not helpful. And so that’s where I’ve learned working with different people that there are particular tools to use, you know?

But that said, I remember when I was getting ready for that transition between the corporate consulting, which I did for about nine years and escaped from cubicle nation. I was definitely in that whole stew of trying to figure out exactly what I wanted to do and I took a class with a woman named Suzanne Falter-Barns that was about developing an online presence. I had been trained as a life coach with Martha Beck and I loved her methodology, but I wasn’t totally vibing with just doing life coaching.

Tanya: Yeah.

Pam: Because I had this whole side that I really love business. And I spent a few months of really deep introspection of thinking about my market and sharing ideas and kind of moving things around and really putting myself intensely into figuring out what might that recipe be. And that’s when I eventually hit on “Escape from Cubicle Nation”, and it was something that evolved. I really didn’t, I had no idea it would turn into a book, I didn’t know it would be kind of a thing. But that’s an example of where many people I think don’t have appreciation for how long it takes sometimes to be stewing on ideas. So in one hand it’s totally okay if you’re stewing on ideas and you’re asking yourself questions, like I’m sure you’re going to be helping people with in the overall program and process…What are great questions to ask and how can you start to track things?

Tanya: Yeah. I think that that’s where the theme piece comes in as sort of a bit of saving grace. And you know, I think the comparison piece – it’s like that person, “I can do that, I can do that, and I can do that.” And I think that that piece there, we’re losing sight of the ingredients that we have. So when we look at what everybody else has around us they might have a little more cayenne than we have cumin or whatever that is.

Pam: Exactly.

Tanya: And so we just kind of can’t force that to happen.

What do you really want for somebody who’s watching this – knowing that the people who are watching this might be seekers, might be multi potential-ites, might be on the cusp of or feeling more lost than ever or whatever it is – what is it that you want them to take away from this?

What do you really want for them?

Pam: What I want is to reframe things in terms of instead of thinking about one thing that you have to figure out in order to be happy, just shift the focus to think about what is the kind of impact that you would love to make in the world.

But the other thing could be what is some bit of a problem or something that you just really want to address.

And it goes directly to what you talked about; Martha Beck calls it ‘compare and despair’. Where you’re like, “Oh man, this is really my thing but look at this person! They’re cuter than me and they’ve done it for five years and oh my God they went to Harvard.” And you tell yourself all these stories.

For the most part, when you look at what impact needs to happen – especially around really large issues like helping people in their careers or solving hunger or inequity in the world – there is so much more need than the people who are actually serving that need.

Focus on where you can make an impact based on who it is that you are.

But really what’s important in the long term is the kind of impact and footprint that you’re going to leave on the earth…and if you’re spending all of your time in agony, beating yourself up because you don’t know the thing, then you’re missing this opportunity to be engaging in a bunch of really wonderful activities that are going to help make a difference in the world for things that you care about.

And that is often the really fertile ground for where it is that you end up finding out areas of deep passion is by doing things, not by stepping back in analyses

However, acting in the world and making impact is I think the way that you’re going to start to get better answers to the question.

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PS – Love that Max Mendoza fellow. Here’s why:

You can find Max on Twitter. 

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Thing Finding Thursday with Amy Kessel

When Amy Kessel reached out to me to do this interview, I was immediately smitten. I’ve known her “in this space” as a life coach (and transformational muse) whose work I’ve appreciated and admired for a while now. It was her warmth and transparency that REALLY pulled me in (am a glutton for warmth and transparency). I knew I was dealing with a woman in her process. In her joy and in her wisdom. Yes, I liked her very much.

And how much she loves her work in the world? Her THING? Shivery goosebumps of resonance. Frankly, it’s precisely what we deeply desire for you.

So I asked her to please say more. From the sunshine of Rome, she delivered.

 

What’s your thing?

Amy Kessel: My thing is so much a part of me it’s hard to even call it a “thing”.  It’s what others have appreciated in me and what I have sought constantly since I was a teenager. It’s my ability to connect deeply in a no-bullshit, straight to the heart kind of way that enables whomever I’m with to see themselves more clearly than they could otherwise.  My thing creates a win-win situation: I find myself most fully at home in that raw space of heart level conversation, and the other person is thrilled and empowered by seeing her wisdom reflected back to her.

Sigh.

The tragedy is that I spent most of my career ignoring this gift in favor of using skills I half-heartedly honed in work I didn’t love.  And the pinch-me-I’m-dreaming incredibly good news is that I finally figured out how to turn my thing into a Thing.  In other words, I now get paid to do what I love and what I’m genetically programmed for.  My coaching practice brings me deep-diving women who are ready to get real with themselves.  I connect again and again, and bring to our conversation my innate gift along with my coaching tools.  Our work together is fulfilling to me on a level I had no idea was possible.

Double sigh.

Was finding your thing the result of a divine revelation, an insane invention, a culmination of insights…or something else?

Amy Kessel: I love this question.  When my youngest child was toddling around and I was beginning to think about life after fulltime mommying, I started asking the universe for clues.  My hunch was that I wanted my work to be aligned with who I had become since I’d left the non-profit world years before.  I wanted flexibility, independence and creativity to be part of my work.  I wanted to lead with my values, and top of the list was connection.

I had no idea what that might look like.

So finding my thing was the result of staying true to myself, staying with the discomfort of open-ended questions, and being game to explore.  I found my way to life coaching with an attitude of willing experimentation, rather than any kind of certainty that it would be a good fit.

I don’t know if it was a divine revelation, but I do know that I have never looked back.

Obstacles/fears/doubts – what were they, how’d you vanquish them?

Amy Kessel: I didn’t!  Fears and doubts are here and won’t be going away anytime soon, as far as I can tell.  I have all the standard variety fears, plus a nice selection of my own personal best.  I work with them by inviting them to the table, to see if there’s some wisdom I can glean from them.  And then I put them where they belong, at the sidelines, and I get on with my business.

It’s absurd to imagine we can vanquish fears.  I prefer to see myself and my clients as courageous open-hearted warriors with bellies full of butterflies.  Each time I overcome an obstacle in my path, it’s by choosing to believe the reliable voice I have within.  This voice may be quieter and less screechy than the voices of fear, but it is true wisdom itself.  When I allow myself to hear it, it’s accurate beyond belief.

What questions did you ask yourself to trigger your a-ha moments…and what signs and milestones should others be looking for in their journeys?

Amy Kessel:  What am I doing when I feel most at ease?

What makes me thrive?

Why do I want what I want?

What am I pretending not to know?

What wants to unfurl in me?

How can I best be of service to myself and others?

Starting with big questions, especially those that make us squirm, is a great way to find our paths and start walking them.  And making peace with not knowing the answers is a crucial aspect of these journeys.

Watch for signs that warn you that you have veered off course, as well as signs that remind you you’re on your way.  The best initial gauge is the body.  Listen to it, as it doesn’t know how to lie.  Heed its warning.  Or else!

To me, milestones are less important as stand-alones, and more helpful in reminding us of what we want and why we want it.  When we settle on what it is that makes us feel most alive, our job is simply to use that to navigate our way toward it.  All roads lead to Rome*, so even a path that turns out to be dead-end is an opportunity to find another route.  Use milestones to sustain you on your journey; they provide proof that we’re on course, and they give us opportunities to celebrate our progress.  (Champagne, anyone?)

The hard part is finding your why.  Once you’ve got that, and you call it your compass, the rest is a walk in the woods.

 

*Side note: this post was written on a sunny afternoon in Rome. 

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Ahhhh…”willing experimentation”. I think of this trying different remedies to soothe the itch, but holding the scientific method (remember this from grade school?): Ask the question. Do the research. Create the hypothesis. Experiment. Draw your conclusion. 

Am also appreciating the “listen to the wisdom of the fears” as well as the call to “listen to the wisdom of the body”.

AND making peace with the discomfort of not knowing the answers. THIS. IS. BIG. Not forcing, not white-knuckling. Allowing. Unfurling. UnFURLING…this is a strong visual and one that is important in Amy’s work.

So in Amy’s honour, let’s start there: what wants to unFURL in you?

(let’s talk about this – really chew it over – on Facebook)

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You can find Amy Kessel at her site www.amykessel.com; on Twitter; or Facebook.

 

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Thing Finding Thursday with Mary-Margaret McMahon

Source: The Town Crier

Mary-Margaret McMahon is something of a Rock Star in my neighbourhood.

Her official bio: Mary Margaret McMahon is the city councillor for Ward 32 Beaches East York where she’s lived with her family for 20 years. A consummate neighbourhood advocate and connector, Councillor McMahon helped found the East Lynn Farmers Market on Danforth, has organized community socials, greening and gardening initiatives and worked as a senior manager and education leader. Her outgoing personality and positive contribution to the neighbourhood is what the citizens appreciate most about her.

Well, yes. And she is fearless, bold and committed. And a hell of a lot of fun.

This anecdote from The Toronto Star does a fine job of stating my case:

She’s dressed in a giant peapod costume, walking along the Danforth on a hot summer’s afternoon, urging passersby to visit the farmers’ market she helped organize in a nearby park.

A bunch of teenage boys are pointing and snickering at her. McMahon follows them into a convenience store and pointedly asks: “What? Don’t you guys like vegetables?” The teens are stunned by her frankness and are forced to admit they like vegetables, including peas.

How she went from “political unknown” stay-at-home Mama to wildly popular (unseating four-term incumbent by 9000 votes) City Councillor fascinates me. So of course I had to ask her about it.

What’s your thing?

Mary-Margaret McMahon: Helping people.

Was finding your thing the result of a divine revelation, an insane invention, a culmination of insights…or something else?

Mary-Margaret McMahon: Staying home with my kids gave me the opportunity to volunteer.

Volunteering gave me the opportunity to see how much small gestures, time, and energy can make a huge difference to someone. That made me feel wonderful.  So I got hooked.  I also grew up in a home with parents who were/are huge volunteers.

After I saw what I could accomplish in our pocket, I thought why not spread the volunteer bug and empower people across the ward and city to build better neighbourhoods?!

Obstacles/fears/doubts – what were they, how’d you vanquish them?

Mary-Margaret McMahon: The more I spoke to people about my idea, the more they empowered me!  Some tried to talk me out of it but I am very obstinate.  I worried about not having a Campaign Manager but was hopeful one would come out of the woodwork at some point.  S/he never did!!  But it didn’t matter!

Knocking at doors was so much fun and very empowering!  Some people berated me but it was good practice and gave me a thicker skin.

Plus I am an eternal optimist and absolutely love people!

What questions did you ask yourself to trigger your a-ha moments…and what signs and milestones should others be looking for in their journeys?

Mary-Margaret McMahon: I didn’t really ask myself anything except why not spread my enthusiasm across the ward and encourage people to be the change they wish to see.

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Here’s what I’m taking away from Mary-Margaret’s experience:

  1. Talk to your people – Get their perspectives. Help them help you get excited about your thing. Let them in.
  2. Volunteer – see what fits.
  3. Walk your talk – literally.

And that asking yourself “WHY NOT spread my gifts and enthusiasm?” - and answering it with action – feels essential.

So let’s start there: what are YOUR gifts that you’d enthusiastically like to share?

(let’s talk about this – really chew it over – on Facebook)

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You can find Mary-Margaret at her site http://www.councillormcmahon.com.

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An Idea Party Gone Intentional: Finding Your Thing with Board of Your Life

Or: 360 Degrees of You, Baby, You

In the last month of Thing Finding Thursdays, Chris Guillebeau, Dyana Valentine, Jenny Blake, and Kelly Diels each talked about asking yourself The Big Questions:

What do you really want to do?

What would you do if you weren’t getting paid?

What are you really, really good at…and can you REALLY make a living at it?

To find – or admit – their things, they started by getting real, getting honest, and looking inside. They made the interior journey – and of course no one can do that for you except you.

But that’s only part of the process. When you’re looking for clues and puzzle pieces to piece together your Thing, you need to look around, not just inside. Look to your people: your friends, family, co-workers, employers. People who’ve known you a long time, seen  you in good and bad times, watched you at work and at play, witnessed you enchanted and thoroughly disenchanted.

It’s kind of like the back of your ensemble. You might not see it unless you seek it out. But everyone around you sees you from all angles.

So ask them what they see.

But this is not about asking if your ass looks fat in those pants. This is about people who care for you, are invested in you, see you…

…helping you see your way forward. Maybe even helping you find Your Thing  – and then brainstorming tangible, achievable steps to making Your Thing happen.

From an Idea Party…

In this month’s O Magazine, Barbara Sher talks about the ‘idea party’. You get together with your friends and each of you outline an intention, goal or dream, and then brainstorm ways to make it happen. You ask for help. For connections. For creativity. And someone knows someone with a vacation villa in Italy and a guru in India and an incandescent Javier Bardem look-alike in Bali and suddenly you’re living – and writing – the next Eat Pray Love. Or maybe that’s just in a Julia Roberts movie.

Or maybe it’s your life.

The brilliantly simple point of an idea party is in the brainstorm, in  the expanding of your possibilities from a party of one (you) to a team teeming with suggestions and directions.

Now that’s a party. Let’s have that party.

…To Assembling a Board of Your Life

But let’s make that idea party even more purposive, more intentional, more accountable and more results-oriented. Let’s not just assemble a team, let’s assemble a Board.

Of Advisors.

For your Life.

That’s what I’ve been doing for years: facilitating my baby, my brainchild, my Thing. And My Thing is called Board of Your Life. (It led me to coaching and I am eternally grateful. That’s the point…Board of Your Life leads to magic).

Board of Your Life is a Summit. It’s 360 degrees of invitation and clarity. It’s an expedition and an adventure…and a wildly practical and possible process. And I’ve decided that I can no longer be the only one facilitating this gorgeousness. So I’ve created The Board of Your Life Kit, which includes:

  • a matrix to help you select and invite your advisors;
  • a list of tested, provocative, intensely productive questions;
  • a guide for your faciliator to effectively focus and lead the event; and
  • lists of all the materials needed to make the magic happen.

[It even includes templates for making the ask of your advisors. Confidence bolstering note: many Board of Your Life-ees are initially hesitant to ask potential advisors to participate...and then find, incredibly (and predictably!) that instead of being weirded out by the request, advisors feel profoundly honoured. When we do (or try to do) everything ourselves, we deny the people we care about the basic human dignity of supporting us. And so inviting your people into your decision making process is 360 degrees of generosity: you're sharing your purpose and your future with them; and they're sharing their knowledge of you with you.]

And so with Board of Your Life you’ll see all your possibilities from all angles. You’ll augment the knowledge you’ve excavated from your soul (by asking yourself those Big Questions) with information, plans and possibilities from the people who know you best, see you clearly, and can help you see your way into your thing.

Are you in? Intrigued? The Board of Your Life Kit debuts in ABOUT 14 days. If you’d like to know more about this kit and how to use it, let me know in the comments or sign-up below. I’ll tell you all about my thing…so you can get started finding your thing.

 

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Thing Finding Thursday with Chris Guillebeau

You know Chris Guillebeau, right? He’s the founder of The Art of Non-Conformity and he’s taking over the worldliterally. His mission is “world domination” – but in the good way. In the “do what you love, make it happen, make life count, be good to others” way. He’s devoted to building an empire of world-changers, and, along the way, travelling the world. Really travelling it. Like, he plans to visit every country on the map before he’s 35.

And oh yes, he just had his first book – aptly called “The Art of Non-Conformity” – published.

That’s a lot of living. That’s serious living and there’s no map for it. Chris Guillebeau has actually invented his thing…

…so how’d he know how to do that – and then have the confidence to do it?

I wanted to know and I thought you’d want to know too, so I asked him.

What’s your thing?

Chris Guillebeau: Well, I don’t have just one thing — it’s a chaotic blend of a few different passions. I love travel and have been on a quest to visit every country in the world for the past four years. I’m a writer and try to publish at least 1,000 words a day in one form or another. I’m an entrepreneur and have never had a job. I go on tour and meet with my readers all over the world, in at least twenty countries a year.

But when you put these things together, I came up with a theme of non-conformity, or helping people to think differently and live unconventional lives. This is my main project that I work on continually.

Was finding your thing the result of a divine revelation, an insane invention, a culmination of insights…or something else?

Chris Guillebeau: Probably “something else.” I love divine revelation stories, but for most of us I think it’s more of a series of steps. I always wanted to be a writer, but I didn’t get serious about it until after I had lived overseas for a while and was turning thirty. I also began traveling quite a bit more then, and the two went together.

Another thing that’s important to mention is that my work wasn’t very good in the beginning. This isn’t false modesty; it’s the reality for almost everyone who pursues a career or even just a passion in some kind of creative work. That’s why it’s so important to keep going and continuously improve yourself. Perhaps the “insane invention” comes about after the 10,000 hours of refining oneself.

Obstacles/fears/doubts – what were they, how’d you vanquish them?

Chris Guillebeau: I still have many of them. I think the goal isn’t so much to vanquish fear, because in some ways fear will always be with you. The goal is to find a way to channel those fears into something positive and motivating. I think a lot about regrets, and when you frame things in terms of looking back later, it becomes easier. Most of us regret the things we haven’t done much more than the things we’ve done.

So I try to make myself jump even when I’m afraid or doubtful, in other words.

What questions did you ask yourself to trigger your a-ha moments…and what signs and milestones should others be looking for in their journeys?

Chris Guillebeau: What do I really want?

How can I make that happen?

What do I need to give up or sacrifice to receive what I really want?

How will my life impact others?

How can I encourage, inspire, or otherwise help others?

Who would I like to be? (What roles would I like to have?)

Is that all? (Usually there’s more… I always push people to go further.)

Regarding signs and milestones, yes, I think it’s important to have markers along the way where you can identify progress. For example, some might say “I’d like to publish a book one day.” This is a great goal, but there are many signs and milestones en route to its culmination. A few would include finding an agent, writing a proposal, pitching to publishers, receiving an offer, completing draft #1, moving to the editing phase, and so on. The more specific you can make your goals, the better — otherwise we tend to get overwhelmed or give up.

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You know what I hear in all that wisdom Chris Guillebeau is throwing down? I hear that it’s all incremental. I hear that you get better and better at what you do and clearer and clearer about who you are as you do it.

And that asking yourself what you really want to do – and answering it with action – is essential.

So let’s start there: what do YOU really want to do?

(let’s talk about this – really chew it over – on Facebook)

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You can find Chris Guillebeau at his blog, The Art of Non-Conformity; on Twitter; or Facebook.

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Thing Finding Thursday with Kelly Diels


Today’s Thing Finding Thursday features a guest post by Kelly Diels.

Kelly Diels is writer/teacher/sex goddess/mama/Red Shoe Blogger who wants to talk about what happens when you already KNOW what your thing is…but are wildly intimidated. She’s got a theory that lots of us actually know what we’re here to do but shy away from it because it’s not practical.

And the answer is not (entirely) Fie To Practicality! so much as “make it practical”. Find ways to do your thing and tap-dance your way into meaning even if the orchestra (or economy!) isn’t yet playing your song. The meaning isn’t in the job title. It’s in the doing.

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On (Almost) Losing My Suitcase and Finding My Purpose: A Metaphor

Prince George. As I step off the plane into the summer sunshine, I’m lit and light with anticipation. After two months apart, I’m about to spend a week with my loverloverman.

My week of wonder, however, is still a few hours away: I’ve got to get a shuttle to the bus station and then a bus to Smithers. But time with my man is closer than ever and that’s all that’s on my mind. It’s everything that’s on my mind. There’s no need for dilly-dallying and dawdling in the airport, picking over magazines or picking up snacks and sustenance. No, I’m carrying everything I need in my laptop case, my purse, my hands, my heart. And so I head from the plane right through the airport, straight for the shuttle and step inside. I’m buoyant. Light. Travelling light.

I’m the first one in. What is taking everyone else so long?

They start trickling into the shuttle, sloooooooowly and inelegantly loading their bags and suitcases into the back, taking forever…Effing baggage. Let’s go!

Oh wait. I’ll be right back. That’s what I exclaim to the shuttle driver as I leap out of my seat, out of the shuttle, and back into the airport.

For that one lonely suitcase rounding the carousel. My suitcase, the one I’d left behind in my enthusiasm to get where I was going…without my things.

Who leaves an airport without her luggage?

I almost did. And I’m not the only one. Airports and airlines have claim desks full of stray suitcases. People forget their things. If they thought about them, they’d know where they were, what they contained. Their things aren’t lost, exactly. They just need to be claimed.

It was the same with My Thing. I’m a writer. I always knew I was a writer. From the age of eight I knew I could and would and should write essays, articles, books.

But I resisted being a writer because I read too much. I read Little Women: Jo scribbles in the attic and later lives in a single room in a rooming house. I read Portrait of an Artist as a Young Man and was not seduced by the existential anguish of an undiscovered genius. And then I read Down and Out in London and Paris wherein George Orwell decides he’s a writer, lives in a bug-infested rented room and – when he’s not working hellish hours in a hellish kitchen – sells his clothes to buy bread to survive another day.

True story. And not one I care to emulate. Attics and garrets, they grow tiresome. Poverty is not my thing…and so neither was writing for a living.

And so I always knew writing was My Thing but I chose to leave it behind. I walked out of the airport and into my life without my suitcase. Without My Thing.

And that was fine(ish). I went to university, I got great jobs, I did well, I made money, I worked in the city and lived in the suburbs, I lived well. Everything was ok.

From the outside. I got up, got my girls to daycare, went to work, did it well, picked up my girls, made dinner, put them to bed, watched TV…and wondered:

Is this it? Is this what I’m living for? To collect a paycheque to pay for daycare and cable?

And that wasn’t it. That wasn’t my thing and I knew it and I’d always known it. Because My Thing just wasn’t practical. How would I make it a career? How would I make money?

And those are the wrong questions to start with.

When you’re finding your thing, start with this:

What would I do for free? What do I do even though no one pays me?

The money and career questions (and answers and plans and plots and schemes) come later. Because Your Thing doesn’t have to be a full-time job, a career or even make you money. Mother Theresa had a thing. I doubt it paid very well.

(My children pay even less and I’m in that gig for life.)

So put aside the practical questions and be truly, madly, deeply impractical: what do you need to do? What would you do for free?

And then do that. You don’t have to quit your job. Just start doing your thing. You and your thing will find your way together.

If you claim it from the carousel (should I? Shouldn’t I? Can I? Will I? And ’round and ’round…) and carry it with you on your journey.

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You can find Kelly Diels at her blog, Cleavage (about sex, money and meaning and writing through the lines that shape us); on Twitter (@kellydiels); or Facebook (Cleavage by Kelly Diels).

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Thing Finding Thursday With Dyana Valentine

What’s Your Thing?

You now know that this is one of my favourite questions. To ask and to help others answer.

I found my thing - and kapow! finding my thing was a game-changer, a life-changer - and over and over again, that’s what clients come to me for: help figuring out what they want to do with this one wild and precious life.

And you and I aren’t the only ones committed to you finding your thing.

Oh no. Not by a long shot.

Dyana Valentine is another one.

And mercy me, this woman is not for the faint of heart. She’s spent the past 12 years instigating entrepreneurs and teams to complete seemingly impossible projects—we’re talking major brand overhauls, six-figure product launches, full-fledged manuscripts. She serves up straight-from-the-hip advice in online magazines and columns all over the ‘net…in a past life, she was an idiot-savant microsurgery tech, worked for the Olympic Games organizing committee, and was personally approached by the FBI with a recruitment invitation—for classified reasons – on two separate occasions. She’s a writer, speaker, instigator, and creator of the incredible Woke Up Knowing Experience.

So, clearly:

Dyana KNOWS about things. And finding things.

And sharing. She loves to share. And so for this week’s Thing Finding Thursday, Dyana and I talked about your catalogue of things, tying shoes, and being your own investigative reporter.

Go on and love her.



You heard, that, right?

“You have a CATALOGUE of things.”

“Just because your GOOD at something DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE ANY BUSINESS DOING IT.”

AND finally: “believe yourself.”

You feel the shudder of resonance, right?

Me too.

Find more Dyana goodness: www.dyanavalentine.com + @DyanaValentine

Know this: We are gaining on finding your thing. Oh yes we are.

More fabulous people + resources coming you way every Thing Finding Thursday. So keep showing up.

PS – that amazing friend Skylar? Also an amazing artist: Check him out: Skylar Fein.

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Transcript for your reading pleasure

Tanya Geisler: And I know that you and I share the belief that everybody got a thing.

Dyana Valentine: Or that everybody has a catalogue of things, which is what I’m starting to discover. So, I’m even in a transition right now where my thing is morphing.  I am, as I’m sure you can tell, I’m fairly animated, right?

Tanya: Mm-hmm.  Little bit.

Dyana: One of the things that happens is, the more us we are, the more we tap in to things that are really meaningful to us and might not have seemed important but that sort of keep coming back.  So, I’ll give you a little story.

When I was about 5 years old, or maybe I was 4 I can’t remember when you learn to tie your shoes, but it’s sometime before major school starts kind of age, I learned how to tie my shoes. And the feeling to be somebody who’s sort of waist high to everyone, and everybody is always having to like help you in and out of things, and on and off of things, and you know there is all this power stuff that happens around when you are 4 or 5? And learning how to tie my shoes, was a time where I literally felt like I was a foot taller.

I just was so proud of myself. And I was so amazed that I didn’t know how to do it before that time. You know when learn something and you say “Ah! How could I have not known how to do this before?”  So I made it my personal mission to teach as many little kids how to tie their shoes as I could.

Okay, here’s what that looked like:  Grocery store with mom, my mom at that time was 25, she’s a young woman, she’s working her butt off, right?  So, we are at the grocery store and I am walking up and down the aisle looking for kids.

I’d sidle up to them and say “Hi, I’m Dyana. Do you know how to tie your shoes?”  And the little kids go like this.  And I’d say “Sit down. I’m going to show you right now.”

So the entire calendar year, I was an insane person about teaching other kids how to tie their shoes.

Now, this is a kid’s story, right? I didn’t even recall this story until some years ago, I think my mom reminded me of it and I thought “That’s my thing!”  I learn something, and I couldn’t believe how it changed my life therefore I must share it with the world, period.  There is not an option.  If I found something that took me out of that place where I would do anything I could do to stay under the covers for a period of time.  Where I was, I had just finished my Masters degree, my business was growing and it was kind of growing faster than I was ready for it to grow, and I was like “I can’t take the pressure!”  You know?

So, in that time here is this story and I thought “Okay, I’m going to teach people how to tie their shoes.” In business, and in life and

So I say we just all look for that story or look for that thing.  Or, even ask our parents, or our friends, or our kids to tell use stories about ourselves and what they see in us in our most natural states and see if there is something there that resonates.

Just play with it.

Tanya: what about strengths? How do people know what their strengths are?

Dyana: Well, there are a lot of ways into that.  I mean, I think that just because you are good at something doesn’t mean you have any business doing it.  So that’s something I feel very strongly about because I spent years doing things that I was perfectly good at and in fact other people thought I was brilliant at, and they made me want to stick a pen into my eye.  But, I kept doing them because I was like “Oh, I have a job.  So I have a job, so that’s good.”, and whatever.  You know, all the sort of requirements, and I was really bummed out.

It sort of took a friend of mine calling me out on that.  So my friend Skylar, we had been friends for years and he was just hilarious and fun and just bare and one of those core, core friends who really knows you.  After I finished a job, a big involved 70 hour a week intense job for 4 years, the project finished so I ended that job and I was having a phone conversation with him after as I was sort of debriefing that experience and he said “I need to tell you something.”  And I said “Okay, go ahead.”  And he said “If you ever take a job like that again, that has nothing to do with who you are, I’m not going to be available to you, as a friend.”

So the reason I bring this up in the context of strengths is that I hear Skylar’s voice every time I’m on the precipice of doing something I’m good at, but isn’t necessarily rooted in my strengths and isn’t necessarily based on my values.  So that is why I put it in context, because a lot of times people think that your strength, is what you are good at.

You may be absolutely fantastic at cooking for people, and you may not want to do that day in and day out, right?  Especially if you’ve already done that for your 2, or 3, or 4 kids and your spouses and your family and stuff like that.  You may not want to be professional chef even though you do that and be good at it.

Tanya: Mmm.

Dyana: So, my way into a strength conversation is to look at those things that without them, you would have a different name, basically.  Like my name would be Matilda, if my strength was getting like little particular things done and making Excel spreadsheets. I would literally be a different person.

Tanya: Yep.

Dyana: That is not where my strengths are, by the way (laughter). But, my name is Dyana Valentine, and I am absolutely rooted in my power and my strength when I am on stage live and I am interacting with a giant audience.

Okay, so that’s the litmus test. For me, I like to like to process with other people. If you want to practice, this is for you and for all the people watching, if you want to practice seeking out your strengths like a little investigative reporter?  You can start to talk about the things you are good at.  Talk about the things you really like.  Talk about what you value, and have somebody else listen to you, and listen for when that zing happens.  To listen for when they go “Oh, oh wait!  What did you say?  Say that one again.”  Just play with about yourself.  We are not used to talking about ourselves.

Tanya: But do we need to hit a wall?

Dyana: A trauma, yeah.  I think that … I don’t think so.  I think that that is a very commonly held concept, that you have to hit bottom before you can bounce back up or something. I’m kind of a drama queen, so I love theories like that because then I’m like “Oh, right… so I have to be more depressed.”  So I’ll be like “Okay, I should probably have an extra bottle of wine on hand then”, for that. You know for that transition or whatever.  But really I don’t think so, because even in this past year I’m been making a transition to do more speaking and more sort of performing of stories and using that as a catalyst for people to change, and I haven’t had a major trauma.

Tanya: Yeah.

Dyana: But I did have a sense that something needed to come out, and I just kept trying to pay attention to it and listen and to quiet down and listen a lot.  So sometimes it can be a major trauma, or a major belly flop of a failure or something, but I don’t think –I don’t know, I’m not really into that whole punishment model, that you have to pay your dues, and all that stuff.  I just don’t – I think that can be kind of destructive.  So I’m going to go with no.

Tanya: Yeah, I think you should go with no.  I like that.

Tanya Geisler: what do you want, this is so big, but what do you want for the people that are watching right now?  What do you want for them?

Dyana:  Here is what I want for you, all of you watching this: I want for you to believe yourself.  And I don’t mean believe in yourself, but I want to believe yourself. I want you to believe what you experience.  I want you to believe what you say to yourself, and to other people. I want you to believe that you are on the planet and we are happy that you are here.  I want you to believe that if you know something is not good for you that you can make that change.  You don’t have to make it now, but I want you to believe that you know the difference and right and right now.

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Thing Finding Thursday With Jenny Blake

What’s Your Thing?

I admit it: it’s a fascination. A necessity. A mission.

I found my thingand kapow! finding my thing was a game-changer, a life-changer – and over and over again, that’s what clients come to me for: help figuring out what they want to do with this one wild and precious life.

Again: necessary. A mission. For you and me.

So if you’re asking yourself “What’s my thing?”, then Thing-Finding Thursday is for you…and we’re kicking it off college and closets and cupcakes, oh my!

In other words, I talked to Jenny Blake. Jenny Blake is a popular blogger and life coachess with the mostess (umm, my words, that probably wasn’t in her official bio), creator of Make Sh*t Happen, an eight week course where you take your “improbable idea and turn it into inevitable success”, and author of Life After College, a book she describes as what happens when Twitter meets What Color is Your Parachute. It’s part journal, part motivator, and part guidebook, and all useful – like having a life coach in your purse. If you’re carrying the book around in your bag…and you’ll want to.

And oh yeah, Jenny worked for a lil’ company you might have heard of. Google. Which she loved…and helped her find her way to her thing, which is coaching. So she knows a little sumthin’ sumthin’ about life-changing, “soul-stirring” decisions.

That’s why I had to talk to her for Thing Finding Thursday - and why I think you’ll connect with what she has to say about how you can find your thing.

I love it when it’s simple: what do you really want?

Or maybe it’s the question that is simple, because the response is magnificent. When you answer it – with words, spirit, action - the joy begins.

So keep asking it. Every time you ask it of yourself, you’ll get a little closer to your thing.

And I’ll keep asking it, too. Every Thing Finding Thursday.

 

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Transcript for your reading pleasure

Tanya: So, Jenny Blake, how did you find your thing?

Jenny: I found my thing – I use this analogy that it’s like revamping your wardrobe – I had started working at a startup company out of school and little by little I just, it’s like cleaning out your closet, where I looked at the things that I was doing in my day to day job, what I really enjoyed and how I could do more of it and what I was not so happy with and how I could get rid of it or offload that or move into something else. And that kind of took me along this path of working at a startup company doing online advertising, managing our websites, managing the office, into Google where I started delivering AdWords product training. I realized I loved working with people but I was sick of talking about AdWords.

Tanya: Right.

Jenny: I eventually found coaching and then from coaching it led me to my two parallel lives of eventually making it onto the current development team at Google, and also starting my own blog, which was truly where I really get to express myself and explore what I’m most passionate about. And that blog has since led to the book, Life After College: The Complete Guide to Getting What You Want.

Tanya: We can see what your thing is. Like, this is where you are really lit up.

Tanya: And then, so you’re in this illustrious university and you’re sort of partway through your studies and doing really well because you’re Jenny Blake and you do really well. And so, halfway through this is when you decided to go for the startup. Right?

Jenny: Yeah.

Tanya: So, you and I like to use coach-y words like “values.” So what? You know, just because it was a zigzag. It was a zag, I guess, when you could have zigged or whatever, but you when over here. What values were you honoring in that moment for making this pretty bold decision?

Jenny: What an amazing question. No one’s ever asked me that before. The values that it honored for me were growth. I knew that I had been working with this professor, when she offered me the job I knew that the potential for my own personal growth was going to be astronomical being the first employee at this company.

And possibility, and that feeling that I was really going to be challenging myself.

Almost too, part of it was like, I have a value around independence and with trusting my gut, and I think a big part of it was I just knew I would regret saying no. But there wasn’t really a scenario in which I could see myself regretting saying yes and just giving it a shot.

Tanya: Two things are showing up here too. One of them that probably makes you a hellaciously awesome coach is that your intuitions are really, really, really strong right, so that’s awesome. And second is clearly ease. Like, what I’m loving about this is that there really doesn’t seem to be a lot of struggle.

Jenny: Yeah. And I think it’s just creating the space, and then listening for things to happen and sometimes I listen better than others and sometimes I have what I refer to as my, “Universe smacks me upside the head” moments where it’s like I haven’t gotten the signs early enough. But we all figure it out eventually.

Tanya: Absolutely. Okay, so let’s not be afraid of walls. Walls create clarity. Like, we get really clear on what we don’t want, right?

Jenny: One of my favorite quotes is, “You have to say no to the good so that you can say yes to the great.” Sometimes you’re saying no to a good job or a good opportunity, but for you as an individual or for me, it’s not great. It’s not soul stirring.

Tanya: I had this conversation fairly recently with somebody and she was saying, “Don’t say yes to your good ideas. Say yes to your genius ideas.”

Tanya: Oh, yeah baby!

Tanya: There is a question that you and I both know is like, the key to everything and that is, “What do I really want?” So why is it such a hard question for people to answer? Some of the viewers right now are sort of thinking, “If I knew what I want I’d be going for it.”

Jenny: “I wouldn’t be here!”

Tanya: That’s right! So why is it such a hard question? What’s wrapped up in, “What do I want?”

Jenny: In my thinking, there’s two things going on. One, that question is like a layer cake. And I love cupcakes so I’m just going to go with the cake metaphor that we can ask, “What do I really want?” And it’s not the first answer or the second or the third, sometimes it’s the tenth time in a row that we’ve had to ask that we really figure it out.

Another, when I’m teaching coaching I use the metaphor of a tree. And the first time we say, “What do I really want?” it’s the roots. We’re getting at the surface. But every time we ask that question again and again we’re getting really deep, deep, deep into the very lowermost roots of the tree. And I think sometimes people give up at the first surface level answers that come up. “What do I really want? A good job.” Okay, what’s important to you about that? Like all these questions that you and I use all the time, but I think people stop too soon and don’t give themselves the space.

And then I think a second barrier is exactly what we were talking about, about having to throw things away. Sometimes in order to admit what we really want there are some scary questions that we don’t know how to answer yet about are we going to disappoint someone or do we have to let something go. Sometimes I think it’s just too scary and we don’t want to look under the hood at that moment.

Tanya: In this kind of work a lot of saboteurs do tend to show up.

Jenny: Yeah, raging.

Tanya: Well, there’s a lot of, “Why haven’t you figured this out yet?” So, a lot of judgment, a lot of judgment.

Jenny: Right. Everyone else has figured it out.

Tanya: Yeah, what’s wrong with you?

Jenny: Totally.

Tanya: What other saboteurs do you think show up when people are trying to find their thing, and what kind of swords can we give them?

Jenny: First of all, I’m so glad that you asked this because inner critics exist, and we all have them and those of us that beat ourselves up because we have them, we’re missing the point that it’s like, part of the human condition for some odd reason, that we have these. And one of the exercises in my book, I call it the “Inner Critic Inventory.” I always tell people when you have this rushing wave of inner critics, first of all it’s a sign that you’re on exactly the right track, and second there’s information there.

You’re too old, you’re too young. I think a lot of times, when we’re answering the specific question, “What do I really want?” or, “What am I most passionate about?” it’s like, “Well, am I even capable of that? Is that possible?” I had a coach tell me, “Don’t get caught up in the tyranny of the hows.” We get so worried about how. “Well, if I want to be a blogger, how do I set up a blog, and how do I get started, and how do I build an audience?” And the noise level there becomes so high that we’re paralyzed out of taking action.

Tanya: And the inventory. I mean, I think it’s really cathartic stuff to have people sort of start to identify, and then even personify them a little bit. So you really have a sense of, “Oh, that’s Bertha. That’s Bertha, oh yeah bring it Bertha! What do you got to say today, Bertha?”

Jenny: And there’s a quote I read somewhere that I loved too, that “intelligence is about knowing what questions to ask.” It’s not necessarily having the answers yet. So I love that idea that, if we can at least just frame up the questions: “What do I really want? What do I most desire?”, that we are more than halfway there.

Tanya: Oh, yes baby! Thank you, thank you! Jenny, one final, where can people find you?

Jenny: You can find me, my blog is lifeaftercollege.org, the website for the book is lacbook.com, and I’m on Twitter@jenny_blake. I would love to hear from any and all of you, so thanks so much Tanya for having me.

 

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