Comments on: Celebrating Failure

By: Ramona Quimby, Loaded Suitcases and the Fear of Success

Ramona Quimby, Loaded Suitcases and the Fear of Success — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 18:38:05 +0000

[...] of failure – This one is the yang to success’s yin. Failure is bad. And you just might fail if you set out to succeed. Best to stay put. (Suit)case [...]

By: Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 14:37:57 +0000

“Acknowledge the learning”. Click…that’s the key all right. Ignore it, step over it, around it and it will indeed feast on your soul.

Thank you so much for coming by…we speak the same language, you Metaphor Master, you!

By: Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 14:31:48 +0000

It is my firm belief that “fear of success” is every single bit as real as fear of failure. And it’s the stomping ground of our gremlins/saboteurs that don’t like change (particularly of the “who do you think you are” varietal). And yes, the “not giving it my all” leaves the door open for trying again another day. To which I always wonder…is today the day to walk through that door? Fully? (just got shivers)

We can book a champers-chat. It may be time.

By: John C Davies

John C Davies — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 14:08:58 +0000

Bluddy Rites! YES!
I have a very strong belief in this concept. And the key that unlocks the magical repository of personal growth and development here is to acknowledge the learning. I told someone the other day (ok I tweeted it but it has similar significance I hope otherwise… wow I’ve thrown down a lot of characters for nuts) that a fresh new disaster is a rich opportunity to learn and grow but a tired old one just means you are not paying attention.

Fail? Yes. Acknowledge. Learn. Move on. That is what it takes to keep your failures from feasting on your soul.

-J

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 01:07:52 +0000

Love this. There are nuances within your categories, I think, too – sometimes I fail because I’m sure I will and therefore I DON’T try hard enough … who knows what would happen if I did. It’s as though I’m somehow afraid to succeed? Or, afraid to fail without having the subconscious excuse that I didn’t give it my all? Or, failing at relationships, when we really DO give it everything we have, but still, somehow, we just fail …
Anyway, I’d love to join you for a glass of champs. Sounds good right about now!

By: Tanya

Tanya — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 11:58:17 +0000

If Dave has empty cupboards AND enjoys Fudgee-os AND Dave makes a grocery run and Fudgee-os are on sale.
Then every time Dave’s cupboards are empty, Fudgee-os are on sale.

Told you I failed SL.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 11:55:38 +0000

I sometimes think that other people’s expectations, be they unrealistic or insultingly non-existent, are often the fuel of our personal saboteurs. Finding a way to still the voices and being ok with our own expectations…that’s where the honey’s at.
Sounds like you’re right where you want to be…and that is blissful to hear.
XO

By: Tanya

Tanya — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 11:49:52 +0000

Indeed…and being a novice (consciously incompetent) is very rarely where we wish to dwell. Thanks for coming by!

By: Tanya

Tanya — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 11:48:48 +0000

The rug getting pulled out from under you is horrific, almost violent. Please take time to rest and nurture…that way you’ll find the strength you need to make this the best damned thing that ever happened.

Love and healing to you, Erin.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 11:46:25 +0000

“Perseverance”…yes, yes, I like that too. And I also believe, FIRMLY, that there is a time to walk away. I’ve quoted Seth Godin on this lots of times here (posts: And Launch, and The Dastardly Dip), and I maintain that if what you’re doing is really not working (say with your values, or it feels like something that you SHOULD be doing, like staying in a job that makes you miserable, for instance) the GET THE HECK OUT! No boy scout badges for honour there.

You will be my guest of honour the next time we make lobster bisque. I promise.